Being confident and having high self-esteem are often intertwined, but mean different things. Self-esteem is knowing your worth and value, while confidence has faith in oneself to accomplish tasks. Both are important for success at all ages, and it is never too early to teach children how to foster their confidence. From early childhood to building self-esteem and self-confidence in their teen years, children of all ages can all benefit.
Confidence is vital for success, regardless of age. For adults, success presents itself as high self-esteem, the ability to adapt, and the ability to fail gracefully. Confidence isn't just about winning; it is about learning and taking on new challenges. It is about making mistakes and learning from them. Check out our self-confidence quiz to see where your child stands.
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To take our Self-Confidence Quiz, click on “Take Quiz” and answer the 20 questions with yes or no.
Self-Confidence Quiz Results
See where your child falls by comparing their results to the group their number falls under.
16-20 Blooming Self-Esteem
These children have strong confidence born from feelings of safety and security. They are adventurous and like to try new things. Not only do they provide themselves with positive self-talk, but they also cheer on others. These children may not always win, but they are likely to brush themselves off and try again.
11-15 Growing Self-Esteem
These children have mostly learned to accept failure graciously. They are more willing to try new things but may need a little adult nudge to keep going. Nevertheless, these children have a good foundation and will continue to grow confident with experience.
6-10 Budding Self-Esteem
These children are starting to show confidence and are beginning to come into their own. They may be starting to talk about their likes and dislikes with enthusiasm. These children may need some adult encouragement, but they are becoming more confident after failures. They may stay back and watch from afar for a while but eventually step out into the spotlight.
1-5 The Seed is Planted
These children may be shy and quiet. They may take a little more time to try new things, but they will continue to step outside their comfort zone with encouragement. These children may be learning coping skills to calm anxiety and are building a solid confidence foundation. They benefit from hearing others encourage them and you will likely see them cheering on others more than themselves. Think of a whole tiny seed planted; these children are about to burst into confidence growth with a bit of time, patience, and modeling.
What to do if you answered “No” more than “Yes”
Don't be discouraged if your child answered with “no” more than “yes”. Like wildflowers, all children grow and bloom at their rate. Meet children where they are and consider their needs and abilities. Some children require more modeling and adult encouragement, while others may benefit from being allowed to watch from afar until they are ready to dive in.
Here are some creative ways to boost your child’s confidence. Introduce your child to the growth mindset and help them reword their negative self-talk. Help them create daily empowering self-confidence affirmations and intentions that focus on their strengths. Create time every day for family members to each share their highs and lows and what they are looking forward to or excited about.
Is there anything to look for in children with a high “Yes” score?
Even children with high confidence can require support at times. Perfectionism can rear its head and cause confident children to doubt their abilities. To avoid this, ensure children are accepting loss and failure and rolling with mistakes. If children begin to feel the need to be perfect, use modeling and communication to help them see the benefits of errors.
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