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Effective Ways to Raise a Grateful Child

3 Effective Ways to Raise a Grateful Child

The research is clear: gratitude is a superfood for our physical, emotional, and social wellbeing.  According to Robert Emmons, Ph.D., Professor of Psychology at UC Davis, gratitude lowers blood pressure, improves immune function, reduces the risk of depression, anxiety, and builds resilience.

All this is good news for parents!

Making gratitude a habit for us and our children not only reminds us of our blessings, but it can also help our children to be physically, psychologically, and socially healthy.

Children can practice gratitude which can help them improve their mood and support them in being kinder and more helpful.   

Here are three simple ways you and your child can build a habit of gratitude – and keep it for life.

Before you continue, we thought you might like to download the FREE Our Gratitude Tree. Take this opportunity to rethink gratitude and authentically teach children to appreciate what they have. Use this activity to jumpstart conversations and actions around appreciation for one another and how grateful you are to have each other as family.

3 Effective Ways to Raise a Grateful Child

Share a Gratitude Journal for 30 Days

In his research and book,  Thanks! How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier, Emmons suggests that even just listing out a few things we are grateful for each day can have a positive impact on our mood, attitude, and relationships.  

Anytime is a perfect time to start a gratitude journal. A few years ago, my daughter and I shared a gratitude journal. We took turns writing in the journal and sharing a few things we were grateful for. It was a great way to connect with my daughter and for both of us to remember the good things about our family and our world.  

Whether you share a journal with your child or you each have your own journal, join forces and agree to keep a gratitude journal for 30 days.  

Each day, list three to five things you are grateful for. Share with each other, if you’d like. Or just ask your child once in a while, “How do you feel after you’ve written what you are grateful for?”

Parenting Coach, Shawn Fink, has kept a gratitude journal for over eight years. She talks about how it’s hard to make it a habit, but once you do, there are benefits to the practice that keep you doing it despite the ups and downs of everyday life.

You can start with 30 days! One month. And you’ll be well on your way to making this a lifelong habit.   

If 30 days seems like a lot, check out our Gratitude KitActivities include making a gratitude calendar, thank-you notes, and much more. 

Notice and Savor the Small Stuff

Often the parents I see in coaching and psychotherapy come to me sharing they think something is wrong with them as they always seem to be waiting for the “other shoe to drop”. They share with me how they tend to harp on the negative within themselves, their children, and their partner.  

The truth is, there is nothing wrong with them or us. We all have a negative bias. According to Rick Hanson, Ph.D., our brains are like Teflon for the good and Velcro for the bad.

Hanson suggests that in order to turn off negative bias, we have to put conscious effort into savoring the good. So when something good happens, we have to not only notice it but take 30 seconds to savor it in order to “plant” it in our implicit memory.   

Together with our children, we can savor the small stuff just by noticing the beauty in the ordinariness of our everyday lives. We can help our children become noticers of the good in one another and our world by

  • pausing to notice and “take in” the beauty of a sunset
  • appreciating a stranger holding the door open for you and your child
  • stopping to admire a vibrant tree in the park
  • listening to birds sing early in the morning

Write a Gratitude Letter

All of us have someone who has made an impact on our lives. Often, we don’t take the time to let them know. In our fast-paced world, sending a text or an email is easy but taking the time to write a handwritten letter to someone is a treasure.  

Need some tips on how to get started? Check out Berkeley’s Greater Good Society for an example of a gratitude letter. Take some time to sit down with your child and write your own gratitude letter.  

Maybe it’s to a grandparent, aunt, uncle, friend, coach, or teacher. Don’t go for perfection – go for authenticity. I can guarantee just by sharing what’s in your heart the recipient will treasure this personalized gesture of appreciation. You and your child might not only make someone’s day but make their life.  

A few years ago, an elderly psychotherapy client of mine shared she often felt her family didn’t really care about her. She felt she didn’t really matter to them and maybe life would be better off without her in it. Then one day, she came to our session with a handwritten letter in her hand and tears in her eyes. Her eight-year-old grandson had written her a gratitude letter. She was so grateful he had noticed her and taken the time to express how much he loves her.  I can tell you that small gesture helped this grandmother have hope and a reason for living.

By making gratitude a habit, it becomes a way of life – an attitude we have toward life. When we live with thoughts of gratitude, we recognize life is truly a gift. 

Looking for more gratitude activities for your child? The Big Life Journal - Daily Edition (ages 5-11) is a science-based journal that helps children grow resilient, confident, and emotionally healthy. The daily activities inside the journal help your child focus on encouraging, self-loving thoughts and wire their brain for growth mindset, resilience, confidence, gratitude, kindness, and self-love.



Lisa McCrohan, MA, LCSW-C, SEP is a Somatic Experiencing Psychotherapist, Personal & Professional Coach, and Author of Gems of Delight. Her life’s work is about creating a more compassionate world. She lives in Middletown, MD, with her family and dog, Sherlock, with the mountains outside her back door.

4 thoughts on “3 Effective Ways to Raise a Grateful Child

  1. avatar ameha says:

    A fantastic way to support kids and parents out there ! Thank you ‘

  2. avatar Katianne Bernhard says:

    I am so grateful for all of this information. I’m ready to create new grateful habits! And encourage my family to do the same.

  3. avatar Pam Cheney says:

    If I purchased a journal within the last couple of weeks, is there any chance I could get the gratitude kit for free anyway? There were no promos when I bought the journal I bought. 🙂

  4. avatar Lorna Sommes says:

    These are fantastic resources for children.

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